Perfectionism

Perfectionism breeds depression.

The "angel of light" (2 Cor 11:14) can torment us by encouraging us to set absurdly high expectations for ourselves and for others.

A friend of mind decided to start reading the Bible and putting God's Word into action every day. By March 11, she was suicidally depressed and was only saved because she could not figure out how to write the perfect letter to explain to her oldest child why she killed herself on his birthday. After she began to recover from depression and learned more about herself, she and her husband sent me a sweatshirt that read, "It doesn't have to be perfect to be good."

Antidotes to perfectionism

Trust God

God loves us as we are right now.

God's love is perfect. We cannot increase it by anything that we do.

Learn by doing

"The perfect is the enemy of the good."

"We claim progress, not perfection" (AA's Big Book).

We learned how to talk by talking poorly at first.

We learned how to ride a bike by biking poorly at first.

We learned how to swim by swimming poorly at first.

The disciples were far from perfect when they started following Jesus. By following Him, they learned how to follow Him.

We can learn. A man with Down Syndrome said to me, "I'm a slow learner--but I learn."